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Eyelash extensions- why I am not wedded to them

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December 16, 2010 Reviewed by Kim 5 Comments

I recently got married, and my wedding really was the most beautiful magical weekend I could imagine. I learned that when it comes to beauty care, there really is no substitute for immense bursting happiness - your skin glows, your eyes sparkle, and you truly just radiate. I think that’s the reason we think of brides as beaming with beauty. Unfortunately, it seems that this image of bridal perfection puts a lot of pressure on would-be brides to look flawless. From extensive and expensive bridal spa treatments to actual bridal Botox parties, there is no end to the lengths the industry will go to exploit brides' desire to be perfect for their big day.  I recently saw a horrendous and depressing show on E! called Bridalplasty, which is literally about soon-to-be brides competing for their wish list of plastic surgery.  It made me so sad I had to turn it off.

While I believe that the extreme pressure that leads to extreme measures is unfortunate for us brides, I am a beauty junkie at heart. So when Marta asked me if I had any pre-wedding beauty regimens to share with TIA, it seemed like a fair question. Surprisingly, I didn’t actually do anything out of the norm, besides getting lots of beauty sleep, indulging in a microcurrent facial right before the big day, and one special beauty adventure that I wanted to write about here… I got eyelash extensions. Let me start by saying, I LOVED them. But that’s just the beginning of the story.

The way eyelash extensions work is that the technician glues individual lashes to your existing lashes, in a painstaking process that happens one lash at a time. And while by my own personal standards I’m certain the glue is harsh and not harmless, it doesn’t actually touch the skin or the eyelash root. I can’t imagine that it’s good for that particular lash, but if you have a skilled technician there won’t be any lasting damage. When I went for my appointment I was a bit nervous. Understandably so, considering you have to lie with your eyes closed for hours (mine took two!) while someone pokes and prods at your delicate eyes. Sure she was gentle, but that didn’t stop my mind for wandering into those dark corners - “What am I doing? What if the glue seeps in? Is this really worth is? Am I that vain? How much longer? Is she messing up? Could I go blind?” Clearly this was not a relaxing situation. Finally, after what seemed endless, she was finished and I was able to open my eyes to reveal my thick flittery flirty luscious lashes. They were definitely beautiful.  At the wedding I got all sorts of compliments on how gorgeous my eyes looked.  And the only person who guessed they were fake was one of my gay male friends, Jordan.

Now here’s what they don’t tell you… lash extensions are a pain in the ass. If you sleep on them wrong, they’ll be pointing in all crazy directions in the morning. You have to carefully arrange them to keep them neat. Same thing if you rub your eyes too much. They naturally fall out as your lashes shed. But this also means that towards the end they look sort of random and weird. The idea is to go in for I guess refills of sorts, but that wasn’t something I was interested in keeping up. I was definitely happy to get rid of them after about three to four weeks. And I am about 100% sure I will never do them again. It was just way too much hassle. For brides who want a bit of extra flair for their big special day, I personally think temporary fake lashes is a way better option. And ultimately, bursting bridal bliss is by far the best accessory a bride could ever have.

  • October 10, 2011

    by Redmond Eyelash Extensions

    This is great to read! Mostly what I've found online is positive reviews. It is interesting to see that you aren't totally in love this lash extensions. Congrats on your love! Are you going on 1 year now?

    All the best!

  • December 17, 2010

    by Angela J

    Hi Kim,

    First, congratulations on your recent nuptials! I wish you all the best.

    I used to think women who got lash extensions were crazy (I remember when J.Lo had them made of mink or fox or some other poor critter) -- but then I tried and reviewed LashFood (thanks to TIA) and after a couple of months my eyelashes were fabulous, so I can now understand the whole lash extension concept. In fact, I so miss having long, lush yet natural-looking lashes that I'm seriously considering going back to LashFood, even though there are some questionable ingredients (like phenoxyethanol) that give me pause. The good thing about lash conditioning products is that you don't get that random unevenness that you mentioned -- I was afraid my lashes would fall out in clumps, but they just followed their natural cycle so there were no bizarre bald spots.

    Thanks for sharing your experience!

  • December 17, 2010

    by kim

    Thanks jk for your sweet words! And thanks for reading :)

  • December 17, 2010

    by all women stalk

    This is great kind of treating and adding fullness to your eyes. I really adore it because my wife have done the same when we attended a family dinner. I even asked her what she did with her eyelashes. Amazing but its a woman thing. More power and keep up the good work.

  • December 16, 2010

    by Julie Kay

    Speaking as someone who's never even heard of eyelash extensions until I read your article, Kim, I have made it to within blinks of 60 without them. Your TIA avatar is gorgeous, and I can only imagine it only hints at your natural beauty. You don't need to even consider ever using them again... my opinion. Thanks for the article. I hope it registers far and wide. ~jk

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